i don’t understand why ppl butt into my life, thinking they’re ‘helping out’, but in reality they’re forcing their ideals and opinions on me, particularly on things in their life they can’t control. so they push their shit on me instead. control issues.
Entitled - “Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.”
new post coming soon.
9/3 - Third Wheel or Wingman?
We’ve all been there. Everyone’s been placed in a situation where they’re it’s them and then a couple hanging out. I have been in these scenarios plenty of times. During my sophomore year of high school, my best friend started to go out with a girl. You see, my friend and I were really close, as we were friends since the eighth grade. (both of us were single for the longest time, so that also explained why we hung out a lot.) As they began to date and such, I felt my relationship with my friend slowly transform from me+friend to me+friend+friend’s girlfriend. Nevertheless, I hated being the constant third wheel. I used to hang out with my friend, just the two of us, and we’d grab a coffee, or bitch over homework, or play games for hours, laughing and talking. That was never the same. Now it was me inviting him for food, and him asking, ‘Hey, you mind if I bring my girlfriend along?’. It was pretty difficult, and to this day, our friendship is pretty bleak. The guy spends nearly all of his time with his girlfriend, and I just don’t really see (just) him anymore.
I hated being the third wheel. I felt like my friendship was compromised for something that gave me more problems. (I’ll probably write more about this later.) But as I look back, two years ahead, I see that there are probably better ways to deal with this kind of issue. I’ve learned through (a very little bit of) dating that having a friend to cover for you can be very beneficial. Enter the wingman - the friend that helps other people have better social interactions in their dates. Now, if I wasn’t so self-centered or stressed out about my sinking friendship, I could’ve taken the chance to become the greatest wingman in the history of wingmen. Not only would I have continued to hang out with my friend, but also be able to help ‘break into’ their relationship (trust me, it was awkward as FUCK in the beginning).
So what are some good ways to be a beast of a wingman? Well, I have this other friend (let’s call this guy Josh). The thing about Josh was that whenever I would hang out in a group of friends (particularly including a girl I was interested in), he would help ‘ease’ mutual conversation. Let’s say the group was talking, and the girl of interest brought up a certain topic, like a new album of some artist she liked. Josh would not only add to it, but to ‘suddenly remember’ that I liked a certain song from the album. Things like this; to bridge the gap - this takes a strong relationship with your wingman. If Josh didn’t know me very well, he wouldn’t make a very good helper, and would probably function better as a third wheel. But it’s the strong friendships, like myself and my best friend, that makes for great wingmen. So if you’re ever stuck in either side of the spectrum, just remember - use your friendship to help each other out :)
"‘Everyone believes the world’s greatest lie…’ says the mysterious old man. 'What is the world’s greatest lie?’ the little boy asks. The old man replies, 'It’s this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate.’"
— from The Alchemist
first impressions
so tumblr to me always felt like a second to reddit (still is tbh), but i felt like facebook or twitter just wasn’t the right place to upload blog-type writings.
this is the result.